Do You Come Here Often?

I was reading an article on askmen.com and it was the top 5 pick up mistakes. I have no issue with men going out there and getting some for a night, as they are usually easy to spot, therefore easy to avoid. Here's a tip - you will never meet the man of your dreams in a bar or a gym. So go to those places with your own agenda, as most likely, the other people there have their own agendas. Here's some of the advice from the article

"A real man doesn't ply a woman with alcohol and take advantage of her. A real man doesn't rely on his looks to gain a woman's affection. A real man doesn't lie about his life to pique a lady's interest. No, the Player wines and dines (and the wine isn't required), the Player doesn't flaunt his good looks but lets them speak for themselves, and the Player never lies.... he only embellishes a little."

Sound advice, n'est pas? Seems rather well thought out and respectful. And let's face it, we ALL embellish a little, so we can't really argue that last point.  Let's continue:

"...lies and deception should never be an option. The Player is an individual of class; he places women on a pedestal. No gimmicks allowed."

DOES ANYONE SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT SENTENCE?!?!?!?!?

It conjures up images of the Fresh Prince of Bel Air, trying too hard to be classy and coming off like a complete idiot, which is rather appropriate, as most "Players" are not only completely transparent in their desire to get laid, but think they're being smooth. There's nothing about a one night stand that speaks of women being on pedestals, unless literally you've got a pedestal at your place she'd look hot on. If a man is coming from a place of respect, the last thing he'd do is ask a woman to be at her most intimate only to slip out the door before she wakes up, never to be heard from again. How is a one night stand respectful? In most cases you can tell if a man is truly interested in you the person versus you the vagina based solely on how many questions he asks about you. Most "Players" ply you with drinks and unoriginal compliments, never once asking anything about who you are as a person. What you do in your free time, if you're involved in any causes. What's your opinion on the latest newsclip?  That's because they don't care. 

What's amazing is that there are a lot of men out there actually studying how to pick up women for this express purpose. There's even a ridiculous show on Vh1, aptly named The Pick Up Artist, who's real name is ambiguous, he goes by "Mystery". Jesus. Most of the men who need to study how to pick up woman are probably more the definition of a real man than the ones who just naturally have game. Because the ones who have game don't really try that hard, therefore usually can't keep a woman around. It's a never ending cycle. From what I've seen, the pick up artist "techniques" are to prey on the typical insecurities of women to their own end. And that is never classy.